Tune Up Tuesday: Thoughtfulness #4

A google search of the word ‘Tune-Up’ revealed the following definition:
An Adjustment for Better Functioning
A search for the definition of ‘Adjustment’ revealed the following:
A Small Change, A Minor Correction, A Modification
More on Tune-Up Tuesday here.

Love is Thoughtful

When you were dating, you probably thought of your partner a lot throughout the day. You thought of what he was up to, or things that you would say to him next time you saw him. You thought of what you would wear for your next date and wanted to make sure it was something you thought he would like. Maybe you thought about the last date you were on, thought of ways you could surprise him for upcoming events. You did things you thought he would like and went places you thought would please him. Perhaps you thought of the future and the wonderful possibilities it contained.

Notice how many thoughts there are in the above paragraph. All of that thinking came fairly naturally back then didn’t it?

Then you got married. Now you have a house to clean, clothes to wash, meals to cook, children to care for and the list goes on. I am sure that you love your spouse more now than you did when you were dating (or I hope you do!) but you know, you may think about him less in the midst of all the other pressing things in your life. I know that I do. Understandable but not excusable.

Nowadays I wake up, shower and pull on some clothes. I don’t put as much thought into my clothes as I used to. This is not to say that I have let myself go but rather, I just get dressed without thinking about it. When we were dating, I was very conscious of what I wore on the days that I would see Scott. Now I don’t mean to say that each day we should spend an hour getting ready, but you know, I could take a few extra moments before he comes home to freshen up. Or I could spend an extra few moments to make myself up a little if we’re going out or if I am planning a special meal, or every so often just for fun.

When we were dating, I would snail mail him letters often. Scott has always loved mail so I always thought it would give him a little something to read. One time I put all sorts of pink heart confetti in the letter. It went all over when he opened it. 5+/- years later there is still a pink confetti heart embedded in the insole of one of his shoes. I thought it would be cute…he didn’t think it was. So I don’t recommend the confetti (especially since now I would be the one to clean it up! lol) but are there little things that you used to do that have fallen by the wayside?

If there are any men reading this…wives long for thoughtful husbands. Thoughtfulness is a key element in feeling loved.

This week let’s be more thoughtful. I like to think that I am thoughtful but there is always room for improvement isn’t there? You’ve heard the saying “to have friends you need to be a friend”? Well let’s try, “To have a thoughtful spouse, you need to BE a thoughtful spouse”. And even if there are no instant results, we still have the satisfaction of knowing that we are glorifying the Lord with our thoughtfulness.

As daughters of the King, how often do we think about God during the day? Do we think about whether or not our activities, attitudes and words are pleasing Him? Or (this one hits home) what He thinks of our priorities each and every day?

Challenge #4: Thoughtfulness towards our Lord, our spouse and our families. Thinking about doing things on purpose to please them.

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  1. Thank you for your kind words Mama Koala.
    And Mike, thanks for coming by! I think you are probably the only husband reading my blog but I wanted to assure you that the “husband comment” wasn’t actually specifically aimed at you 🙂 LOL. Have a great day everyone!

  2. Its funny because the oppesite is true for me, the longer I have been married the more effert I put in to what I wear, not only to please my husband who is a ferm beliver women are only to wear skrits but I belive God wants us to look like women, you blogged on that about dressing for the job, loved what you said. And when we were dating a couple dates I wore sweats!! (and jeans) So every day i think “what would Josh like” as Im dressing, and if Im doing a dirty job like painting the bath tub I change before he gets home! But in many other ways I lack in thoughtfulness so thankyou for the getal reminder to think on Josh though out the day and on God my first love!!Love sandy

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