Adding To The Family

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Excited. Happy. Scared.

I’m thrilled about our growing family but scared too. Right now, life with my two tots is pretty sweet. They play well together, each have their own rooms, they’re close in age so homeschooling will be fun and eventful. I have two hands, two knees, two sides and two children; it works so well. How will this new little addition change things? Am I up to the challenge?

But then I think back to when I was first expecting. I was thrilled of course, but terrified of how life would change. Life with just DH and I was pretty sweet. Was I ready for change? What kind of mother would I be? But Chloe arrived and I had my answer. It turns out I am the kind of mother who loves her little one immensely, who often has no clue what she is doing but who wants to do the best she can.

Oh, those sweet baby days. Mommy and Chloe playing at the park, snuggling on the couch, walking the trails. When Chloe was just over 9 months, the little test showed two lines and I panicked. I wanted little ones close but suddenly, what would life be like? How could I love another little one was much as I loved the sweet one I already had? Oh, the fears and questions! And then John arrived and I learned that love grows and now I was twice as clueless and twice as blessed!

There is comfort in the familiar. Change, no matter how welcome, planned or unplanned, change is scary!

What changes scare you?


  1. It’s all covered by the asking
    Special GRACE abounds for every season & every reason.
    Do your best & God does the rest.
    HE grows the gardens & provides for all HE plants:-)

  2. Yay! Congrats! Believe me, your lap and your heart are big enough for three. Honestly, having three wasn’t too much different than having two. It was just one more carseat to buckle, and a few more things to pack.

    Now, when #3 is mobile, that’s when the changes start to show! That’s one more opinion, one more voice, one more little person (literally) hanging on your legs. And, it can be hard at times to walk with three hanging on your legs! Ha!

    But, more than anything, it is one more sweet voice saying, “I love you Momma.” One more snuggler at night. One more to teach things to. One more to love and have steal your heart away.

    I love having three. Yes, it is challenging at times, and sometimes I ask myself, “What was I thinking?!” But then one of my girls comes over to me and gives me a hug, and it’s all clear then 🙂

    Now, you just have to see who is going to be outnumbered in your little fam… the boys or the girls!

    I love it!

  3. Adding a third child to the mix was definitely the biggest change that I’ve faced by far. It feels at times like there is not enough of me to go around…but then I realize that God planned things this way and I feel that peace of letting go of the control. I pray that your transition to a family of five will be blessed 🙂

  4. When we adopted our first daughter, I was forty years old. I told my husband, “Just one, if I could only have just one child…” But God has another plan, and a sense of humor. Our great niece (who later became our daughter)needed a home and a sister, and our family provided both for her. At the age of 45, I become a mother to two beautiful children ages 3 and 5. It is the family God wanted my husband and I to have. God bless you, have faith, and ask for help!

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